"I love you but I'm not in love with you." It's kind of cliche for breakup lines. And works pretty well too when you want to breakup with someone. But what does it really mean?
When your partner or past lover spoke of this line, then he simply wants to tell you that he no longer wants a relationship with you anymore. His feelings for you have faded over time and even though he still respects you and cares about you, he just doesn't want to continue the relationship. However, it does not always mean that his feelings have completely disappeared. Sometimes, it implies that the relationship isn't what he expected it to be. Maybe he is not happy in his life and sad to say, he is blaming the relationship for it.
When all the emotions and the hormones of a new relationship fades away, you are left with reality. Reality of what you want in a relationship and what your partner wants. So when someone uses this old cliche: "I love you but I am not in love with you," it could mean one of the following things:
- He thinks that because he does not feel the same about you as he did before, it must mean that he has fallen out of love from you and that it's best to end the relationship.
- He is still in love with you but he wants to end the relationship for some reason. Therefore, he is simply using using it as an excuse to get out of the union.
- He is at a point in life where a lot of emotions and other factors are making him confused about what he needs and wants. This in turn leads him to believe that the relationship is not for him and he is not in love. At the same time, he may also think that if he was in love, he would have been sure about continuing the relationship.
- He has spent a lot of time in the relationship, and still doesn't feel the level of security, happiness, understanding and love he expect in a relationship.
- The passion in the relationship has faded away.
Well, a lot of these reasons are something you can't do anything about. But there are some things that you could have prevented and should prevent in your future relationships. First of all, if you got the whole "I love you but not in love with you" routine, don't get obsessed about it. Whatever happened in the past, is the past. There is nothing you can do to change it. Even if you think you could have done something differently, then just accept it and let your mind realize this mistake. Thinking about it once is enough to realize the mistake. If you are not sure if you did something wrong or not, then I can tell you right now that you didn't.
The only thing that you can do is just concentrate on improving yourself and becoming a better person. The feeling of love is something that no one can control. Not your ex, not you. Not even cupid. It's easy to mistake emotions for love in the initial stages of a relationship.
In many cases, people realize how much they love someone after they lose them. And if your ex loved you, they will begin to realize after the breakup. And if they don't, let it go. Become a better person. Become someone that you are proud of. Be in love with yourself. For once in your life, think about how to fall in love with the one person who matters most - You.