Tuesday, March 17

Somebody Else

"It's so hard to belong to someone else when the right one comes along..."

I'm writing this blog to give sympathy to those who are confused with what to do regarding liking somebody when someone already owns them..

To those who are not in position to say and do something about the issue:

You can't just point your fingers to a person and scream at them that he or she is stupid for liking somebody else when he or she already in a relationship with someone. Yes, the person is wrong with what he or she is doing but have you ever thought of the reason why he or she fell in love with somebody despite having a girlfriend or a boyfriend? It is not because it's in his or her nature but rather because something is missing with his or her current partner. You can't just blame him or her for liking someone else. It is a reality in life that things happen when you least expect it. All you have to do is to accept it and live with it. Remember, you are not in a position to intervene and to get angry. You're not involve and you don't know the whole story. So, just listen to the stories and shut up. Never ever say negative things.

To those who fell in love with someone other than their partners:

You must be strong enough to stand and fight for what you feel. It's either you stay in a relationship with your current partner and regret losing the other person OR you choose the other one and be happy. As what most people say, life is a gamble in itself. You have to take risks. In life, you'll never know unless you try. Sometimes, you have to hurt other people if it means making you happy and saving them for a greater pain in the future. Always remember this: if ever you'll come to realize that you made the wrong decision, accept the consequences that it will bring. Again, this is just life. It's either you win or you lose. Just learn something from the experience. If you truly want to become happy, you need to gamble. 

To those who are in a relationship with the person who fell in love to somebody else:
Acceptance and understanding - you need these two things. You have to accept the fact that your partner is no longer in love with you. You have to understand that you don't always get what you want in life. Learn to let go because the more you keep holding on when you know that your partner is liking somebody else, the more you will hurt yourself and the more it gets harder. 

Yes, you are greatly devastated because of what happened and what is happening but isn't it a relief to know that the person you are currently in a relationship with is not the perfect and right one for you? Would you allow yourself to be in a relationship with someone who loves somebody else? I bet not. You are not that stupid and martyr, right? It's perfectly normal to hate your partner for what he or she is doing. You have the right to do so. What you don't have the right is to stop them from leaving when it is what they want to do. You can't force someone to stay if they are no longer happy. It's time to save yourself. Sometimes, you have to get hurt to realize that things don't always happen the way you want them to be and that you need to be mature enough to let go of love.

note: This is just my opinion. If you disagree about anything written here, I'm willing to accept comments. Sorry!

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